Powerful practical method from Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, which he said could help you eliminate 99% of your worries — simply by forcing your mind to act logically instead of emotionally.
Let’s go through each of the four steps in detail, and I’ll explain the psychology and practical application behind them.
๐งญ The 4-Step Method to Solve Worrying (Dale Carnegie’s “Magic Formula”)
Step 1: Write down precisely what I am worrying about
“A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” – Dale Carnegie
Purpose:
Most people worry vaguely — they feel anxious, but can’t clearly say what exactly is troubling them. This causes the mind to go in circles.
When you write it down clearly, you transform a feeling into a defined problem — and a defined problem is easier to solve.
How to do it:
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Take a piece of paper and write one clear sentence:
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“I am worried about _______________.”
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Be very specific: mention what, where, when, and who is involved.
Example:
❌ “I’m worried about my job.”
✅ “I’m worried that our refinery audit next month will fail because our safety documentation is incomplete.”
Now your brain knows what to focus on.
Step 2: Write down what I can’t do about it
“Face the worst possible outcome, accept it mentally, and then try to improve upon it.”
Purpose:
Worry often comes from trying to control what you can’t control. This step helps you separate uncontrollable factors (which you must accept) from controllable ones (which you can act on).
How to do it:
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Make a list of what’s beyond your control.
Examples:-
“I can’t control the auditor’s attitude.”
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“I can’t change what happened last month.”
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“I can’t guarantee the weather during inspection.”
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By writing these down, you free your mind from wasting energy on the impossible. Acceptance brings mental peace.
Step 3: Decide what to do
“Once you have the facts, make a decision — and never look back.”
Purpose:
After removing what you can’t control, you can focus on what you can do.
This turns worry into a plan of action.
How to do it:
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Write down:
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What can I do about this?
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What steps are within my control right now?
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Then choose the best possible option — even if it’s not perfect.
Example:
✅ “I can review the safety files and assign someone to update missing records.”
✅ “I can conduct an internal audit before the official one.”
✅ “I can brief the team on potential issues.”
Making a decision stops the endless mental loop.
Step 4: Start immediately to carry out that decision
“Once you’ve made a decision — act! Don’t delay. Action breeds confidence and courage; inaction breeds doubt and fear.”
Purpose:
This is where real change happens.
The moment you act, your focus shifts from worrying to doing.
Action gives your mind a sense of control — it breaks the paralysis of fear.
How to do it:
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Don’t wait for the “perfect moment.” Start now, even with small steps.
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Do something concrete — make a phone call, write an email, assign a task, review a file.
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Once you start, momentum will reduce your anxiety almost instantly.
Example:
You decided to fix the safety documentation?
→ Start tonight by reviewing one file.
→ Tomorrow, brief your team.
→ By next week, schedule a mock audit.
Each small action replaces worry with progress.
⚙️ In Summary
| Step | Description | Effect |
|---|---|---|
| 1️⃣ | Write down exactly what I’m worrying about | Turns vague fear into a specific problem |
| 2️⃣ | Write down what I can’t do about it | Teaches acceptance and focus |
| 3️⃣ | Decide what to do | Creates a clear action plan |
| 4️⃣ | Start immediately | Transforms worry into confidence |
๐ก Psychological Insight
Dale Carnegie’s genius lies in forcing the brain to switch from emotion to logic.
Writing things down and deciding on action reduces “mental fog.”
It’s not about eliminating all problems — it’s about managing your mental response to them.
“If you can’t sleep, get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the action that frees you from anxiety.” – Dale Carnegie
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